To sit or not to sit? That’s the question most couples ask when planning their wedding reception.
There’s no straight answer to whether a cocktail reception is better than a seated dinner because both work; it all depends on your preferences. But one of the most beautiful things about modern weddings is that you don’t have to stick to traditions. You can be as creative and personal as you want—and that’s what makes it even more memorable!
Whether to let your guests sit or not boils down to your personal style. To help you decide, let’s look at the differences between a cocktail reception and a seated dinner, what’s involved with each, and other reasons that might make you choose one over the other.
A seated dinner is the standard in wedding receptions. It’s where you can treat guests to a plated, full-course, or buffet dinner after the wedding.
Because you know where everyone is seated, you can easily see them during your speech and go over to thank them for coming to celebrate with you. So if this is the style that speaks to your personality, a sit-down dinner is the way to go.
Take note, though, that this type of set-up requires more elements and additional coordination:
It gives off a sense of formality that allows for a natural flow of traditional wedding ceremonies such as speeches, a first dance, toasts, etc. You can go as formal or informal as you like with how you set the tables and decorate the whole reception area.
Also, the menu for a seated dinner is usually more structured.
First of all, you will need more venue space to accommodate the tables and chairs for the guests. That means the number of chairs that can fit in the venue will also dictate the number of guests you can have. Plus, you’ll need to decide on the best seating plan.
If you’re opting for a buffet service, you will need to factor in the space needed for the food, as well as plates and cutlery.
|More formal and structured||Your venue size would need to accommodate the tables and chairs|
|Guests have allocated seats||You need to plan a seating chart|
|You can see everyone during the speeches||The party vibe won’t kick in until the formalities are over|
|The crowd will be easier to manage|
|Everyone gets their food at the same time|
|Set tables will make your venue look elegant|
A cocktail-style reception has a more relaxed vibe. It allows guests to enjoy most of the space and socialize more freely. If you want your wedding reception to feel more interactive, then a cocktail reception fits the bill.
What about tables and chairs? If they’re a must for a sit-down dinner, does it mean you won’t need them at all for a cocktail wedding party?
No, you still do. Otherwise, your guests—especially the elderly ones and those wearing heels—won’t have a place to rest. However, you won’t need one for every person. Experts recommend seating for around 50% of your guests because only one-third of them are expected to sit at any one time.
You can vary the seating options too—including everything from regular seats and stools to armchairs and couches. And don’t forget to reserve an area where guests can leave their coats and bags!
Since you won’t need as much furniture, you also won’t need a big venue. This might just enable you to invite more guests to celebrate your special day with you.
Food-wise, cocktail receptions are also not as structured as a seated dinner. You could serve hors d’ oeuvres on trays or set up a grazing station or food truck where people can eat and go as they please. There are no hard rules, so you can get as creative with the food options as you want.
What you’ll need, though, is alcohol, because what’s a cocktail party without it? That includes cocktails, beer, wine, and even non-alcoholic beverages. In this case, opting for a venue that has full bar service is integral—and will allow you to focus on celebrating your special day without worrying about alcohol running low!
|Laid back vibe||May not be the best option if you have elderly and very young guests|
|You don’t need a big venue||It can be tricky to ensure your guests are well-fed|
|You can invite more guests||Harder to coordinate dietary requirements because there are no assigned tables|
|Easier for hosts to circulate and chat with everyone|
|No need for a seating plan|
|You can be more creative with the menu|
|You can save costs on food|
|Guests can mingle with each other more|
Choosing whether to go for a cocktail style or a seated dinner is a matter of preference. But whichever you choose, one thing’s for sure: you’re going to need help from the experts to make it a successful event.
The Loft on King is a versatile wedding venue in the heart of the city that’s perfect for both cocktail receptions and seated dinners. We have a team of experienced caterers, servers, mixologists, and AV technicians to ensure your guests are comfortable so you can focus on what matters most—being “in the moment” of your wedding day.
For inquiries and bookings, get in touch with us today!